I Don’t Feel Like Blogging Anymore

…sometimes…

If the Twitterverse is any measure, this is a chorus that is getting louder so permit me to join in before it becomes a total cacophony (I sing alto).

I have been a blogger since 2014. That year I pinched my nose and dived into expressing myself publicly mainly because it was a gnawing idea and I was encouraged to share my unique perspective (that as far as I’ve seen) had never been done before. Blogging was a wonderful outlet which allowed me to reveal myself and my thoughts to take up a little space in the world.

Even though my blog posts could stand to be a little more frequent (I have only written 135 of them), I’m proud to be part of the blogosphere and that I’ve put my writing out there and I’m especially happy for the connections I’ve made and all the people who have taken the time to click and read.

These days however, sometimes I feel like powering down.

Why?

Life Gets in the Way

As the name of my blog suggests, my life is such that I’m in the middle of every damn thing. I have a 16 year old, 13 year old and 6 year old and my plate is filled trying to navigate the three of them with some sense of normalcy. In any given work week I (try to) teach a foreign language to over 100 of the nation’s teenagers who learn at different levels therefore I manage the challenges that come with that. I am also a wife trying to keep a marriage alive and prioritizing the associated duties of family life, trying to stay healthy and sane, being social, maintaining good skin, drinking water and minding my business. There are many topics jotted on paper and filed in my brain, from both considered perspectives and lightbulb moments but lawdddd, the time to sit and express it adequately…Wordpress remains ignored.

Writing into a Void

I’ve never been one to write for an audience, the truth is I don’t even think I have ‘a niche audience’ pinned down. Many of you are WordPress bloggers new to a Trinidadian perspective while some of you have been sent here via connection through my social media which has been good in terms of raising my profile. I welcome all of you who read, peruse, ‘like’ and engage with what I’ve written. The feedback doesn’t happen all the time especially from a wider Trinbagonian audience, the visits and views can be abysmal and I would be lying if I said that this hasn’t caused me to ponder the worth of it all. Although this isn’t the sole purpose of writing, it can be very demotivating. This feeling doesn’t last too long with me but it is still a feeling to recognize and validate.

The “Extras”

In 2014 I had no clue about the extra stuff in terms of getting my blog posts to be ‘seen’. If you are a blogger now, not only is what you write important but how you write it, keeping the extra stuff at the forefront of your mind. So monitoring your SEO (search rankings), managing posting times, creating links and backlinks, cleaning up your previous links, optimizing your photos, maximizing your stats, tying in and keeping up with your linked social media, engaging and maintaining your follower count….all of this for your work to ‘matter’. Trust me I understand the ‘why’ behind it all but lemme just write nah…

…it would be a thing of glory.

One More Thing

We live in a time where visuals have higher precedence than words. One only has to look at the battle of the top giants Instagram and Tik Tok with the world of doom-scrolling, content creators and influencers while Twitter hosts bloggers who battle ‘writer’s lifts’ and ‘pin for pins’ to rack up followers and readers. There has even been some discussion on how to tie in the visual platforms to our writing to get views our way. Honestly, I find this to be a lot (read: too much) to deal with.

These are just my immediate thoughts on why (sometimes!) I don’t feel like blogging anymore. It doesn’t mean that I am ready to follow through and fold up but I felt it important to acknowledge and maybe identify reasons as to why you may have noticed that I haven’t posted in a while. I’m sure some of you who are bloggers have felt the same way at one point or another. Please feel free to express in the comment section below, I would really like to hear your views on the matter even if they diverge. Feel free to also follow me via joining my email list, like and share this post as well to fellow bloggers!

Blessings

TMIDM

Christmas Snacking (with a twist) (Blogmas#3)

Mawnin mawnin!

I could have written the conventional post about the many Christmas snacks I enjoy, giving recommendations, tips and recipes but you know me….lemme add a lil bacchanal in de mix.

This post is about a few Christmas nibbles I MUST have in my zone during the season……with a twist. In life you must know what you want and what you absolutely do NOT want.

Now keep in mind half de ting here not healthy since I’m writing about snacks and indulgences that I allow. Yes I know there are ways to make your snacking healthier during the holidays and I know how, but that is a different conversation for another time. These are INDULGENCES people! OK?

Also, all the pictures featured in this blog post are not mine.

COOKIES – I will entertain any type of tasty Christmas cookies that look like this.

(Pioneer Woman leads with intensity)

I doh want this, I feel like I could eat this on a random Tuesday in the car somewhere between the grocery and home:

Where is the effort?

I’m not buying this either:

How do you say ‘Nope’ in Danish?

I’m tired of the gremlinz (and husband) racing to eat all the sugar topped ones and leaving the plain ones in the tin until some time in April. You would think by now the Danes would know to just do a tin with the sugary ones but if such a tin exists already (see what I did there?), let me know.

CHEESE BALLS

Top Shelf

This is as welcome today as it was in 1986. Never did there exist a perfect combination of crunch, flavour and memories. Meanwhile….

This is ghetto

Stop it….immediately…..oh geeed.

FRUIT – I love the classics but not when they choke me via the skin or the seed.

*choke
*choke

I will always have preference for gala apples and seedless grapes:

we are gentle
we are delicate, we do not spit

PRETZELS – I am the only one who is a fan in my house but during this time even my favourite needs a lil zessing:

From bland to BLADOWWW!

MARSHMALLOWS – None shall compare to all iterations under this brand:

Excellence.
STOP THIS.

There shall be no other options. Life is too short for generic marshmallows.

And finally,

CHOCOLATE

I’m stating emphatically that if it doesn’t fall into the family of any of these:

……AH DOH WANT IT!!!!!!!!

Is Christmas, have a heart!! Leave the others for the rest of the year!!! Everybody gets their chance to shine when it’s their turn, yuh understand!

That’s my list! I want to do one with Trini Christmas foods too, but I feel that one staying in drafts, that is a next level of bacchanal.

So tell me? Did I hit the nail on the head? Or am I off? Let me know what are your favourites! What snack indulgences are you tolerating this season?

Bless

TMIDM

Joy in Expectation (Blogmas#2)

As much as I say I am scaling down on Christmas because of the current global situation and all its pancreatic* glory, I find myself, not doing the most but considering myself having ‘band meh belly’ so hard throughout the year, that I think I deserve a little niceness. The thing is, all my niceness is not centred on clothes or shoes or makeup or anything personal for myself (except my Keurig coffee machine because dat is life!) but centred on the upkeep of my home. I think my brain figures that since we are likely to be home-bound for the foreseeable future, I might as well spend my coins and upgrade my home space to further my comfort. (My brain also needed a distraction via a new project because it’s not like if I don’t have enough on my plate). Home upgrades are tedious, a bit frustrating but overall very exciting (who doesn’t love a makeover?).

Bling bling

For as long as I know myself I have always enjoyed looking forward to something fun and ‘new’. Christmas will always remain my favourite holiday largely because of the advent of Christ and the spiritual and literal preparation for this: new paint smell, new linens, new decor, new sights, new feelings….the only old (classic) things I treasure at this time are the movies, music, memories. Ah love eet!

Now I appreciate that there are many who will not feel this way particularly those who are just not into Christmas and especially those who have suffered loss and therefore the whole season becomes one of only painful reminders. My advent prayers always include comfort for those who suffer at this time that they find the grace to rally through🙏🏾.

During this season of preparation and expectation be sure to take some time to find your joy that lies in the process, whatever it may be to you. There is some to be found somewhere in the mix man. Seek it out!

So where are you on the spectrum? Lemme know nah. Let’s meet in the comments!

Bless

TMIDM

*pandemic